I came home from getting my hair cut a couple hours ago. I was not happy. I felt like an ugly peter pan who had a love child with Blanche from Golden Girls. It's amazing to me how much a hair cut can GREATLY affect your mood, spirit, self worth. Trying not to panic I decided that I was going to make this better. I showed this picture...
I got this... there were worse pictures but I deleted them. No use feeling bad. *This is seriously how she styled it, she is a girl my age and has been a hairdresser for five years. No offense, but really!?*
So, the whole idea of this post is to help you when you get a haircut that might be not to your liking, like this one. First, refuse to call yourself bad names, or take the blame out on someone else... INCLUDING the hairdresser. This isn't the time to create anything other than peace, being mean isn't going to make it better, you will just feel worse. Plus, what are they going to do, cut it shorter?
So first step, take a shower. We need to assess the damage, discover what's salvageable, and relax a little under hot water. Think about how this can be made into a lesson of humility, but don't downgrade your feelings. It is not silly for you to be feeling this way. Hair is a large part of our self image. You might even want to make a joke like I did, calling myself Peter Pan. Just say it as a joke, and not as your truth.
After taking a shower, try manipulating your hair into something you can work with. Imagine hair cuts that you like and what kind of hair you've got to work with. I'm not going to lie and say I didn't cry. There is nothing wrong with letting loose your emotions. Mourning your hair and what it was is not stupid, but don't wallow in your sorrow. Cry, let go, and make it better.
After manipulating your hair, using texturizers if necessary, see if it's working out. This is the point where if it isn't working, that I would suggest calling a different hairdresser, maybe someone a friend trusts. Thankfully I was able to bypass this step.
Put on your favorite outfit, makeup (if you wear it), and a smile. Remember that hair grows and with confidence you can rock ANYTHING.
Cute headbands help.